Most of us were never taught how to talk about desire, limits, timing, or care before things get charged. We’re expected to magically know what we want, how to ask for it, and how to stay connected once bodies and emotions are involved. Communication and consent are not the opposite of desire—for many people, they are the lubricant. Safety is what sets the foundation for fulfilling, erotic, and meaningful experiences.
The Beforeplay Template is a simple, humane starting place—a way to slow the moment down just enough to bring clarity, kindness, and choice back into the room. It includes clear examples, language prompts, and the full spectrum of consent (yes, no, maybe, not now, under certain conditions) so you’re not guessing or negotiating in the heat of the moment.
The Beforeplay Conversation happens with clothes on and eyes open, creating space to name capacity, boundaries, curiosities, and care before pressure or misunderstanding creeps in. It’s not about rules or scripts—it’s about helping everyone arrive with agency, mutual respect, and a shared sense of safety.