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Not sure where
to begin? Begin here.

You don't have to have it figured out. You don't have to know what you want or name what's wrong. You just have to be curious enough to stay.

Everything on this page is free. It's Kristin's way of saying: come in, look around, take what's useful. When you're ready for more, you'll know.

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The BeforePlay
Template

Most people skip the conversation before sex entirely. Not because they don't care, but because they were never given a framework that felt natural, human, and actually sexy to use.

BeforePlay is Kristin's consent and desire negotiation protocol, distilled into a template you can use tonight. It covers what you want, what you don't want, what you're curious about, and what your body needs to feel safe enough to open.

It's the first piece of the Wilder Intimacy framework, and it's yours the moment you put your name on the list.

The BeforePlay Template Guide

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What's inside
  • Desire questions to ask before arousal takes over
  • Aftercare and integration (the part most people skip)
  • Language that works for couples, new partners, and kink-curious beginners
Permission Granted Podcast

Real conversations.
Nothing watered down.

Kristin talks with practitioners, partners, survivors, and seekers about the things most people only say in her coaching room. Erotic sovereignty. Religious trauma. Devotional kink. Midlife initiation. The body as holy text.

No disclaimers. No hedging. Just the conversation you've been waiting for someone to have out loud.

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Episode 01

Radiant Rebuild, with Beth Buchanan

Beth Buchanan · @wnourished

The conversation that started it all. Kristin and Beth on what it means to rebuild your relationship to pleasure after years of survival mode, and why the work they're building together isn't a program so much as a reclamation.

Watch now → Episode 02

Embracing Your Eros

with Melisa Keenan

The Good Girl conditioning runs deeper than most women realize. Kristin on the neuroscience of rule-following, the spiritual dimension of sexual shame, and what it actually looks and feels like to bury the performance and come home to yourself.

Watch now → More conversations on the channel Visit YouTube →
The Gathering

The campfire,
not the curriculum.

A monthly online gathering where Kristin brings what is alive in her right now. No agenda, no performance, no prerequisites. Just the thing she's been turning over in her own life, and a room full of people who speak the same strange language.

Low cost. Open to anyone. Announced through the newsletter first, so that's where to be if you want in.

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Kristin's Writing

The thinking
behind the work.

Kristin writes in two places. BeforePlay is her newsletter: letters on desire, consent, and the work of coming home to yourself. Her Substack is where the longer, looser writing lands: heretical prose, psychological deep dives, and the pieces that don't follow any format.

Not a content calendar. A record of what she's actually working through.

Read BeforePlay → Read on Substack →
When you're ready

This is the doorway.

When the podcast isn't enough. When you've read everything and you're still in the same place. When you know what you know and you still can't make it move. That's when you book a session. One conversation. No packages. No prerequisites. Kristin meets you exactly where you are.

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