Your Initiation Into Wholeness
Love, relationships & sexuality touch some of the deepest layers of what it means to be human: identity, spirituality, power, intimacy, and belonging.
For many people, these parts of themselves have been shaped by shame, silence, confusion, or pressure. My work creates a space where sexuality can be explored honestly and safely, without performance or judgment.
I work with individuals and couples who want to understand their bodies, desires, relationships, and inner worlds more clearly, and integrate parts of themselves that have been hidden, suppressed, or misunderstood.
Many of my clients are thoughtful, self-aware people who have outgrown the rules they were given about sex, relationships, and desire. They may be healing religious shame, exploring kink or nontraditional relationship structures, or simply wanting a more honest and embodied relationship with their own erotic life.
This work is trauma-informed and grounded in consent, personal responsibility, and emotional depth.
Areas of Focus
Religious Trauma & Erotic Shame
Healing the impact of high-control religion or family/cultural conditioning, and rebuilding a relationship with the body, desire, and personal sovereignty.
Desire, Arousal, Libido & Erotic Psychology
Exploring the many factors that shape how desire awakens and unfolds in the body, including nervous system wiring, pacing, imagination, sensory preferences, emotional safety, and relational dynamics.
Exploring the many factors that shape how desire awakens and unfolds in the body, including nervous system wiring, pacing, imagination, sensory preferences, emotional safety, and relational dynamics.
Kink, BDSM & Ethical Power Exchange
Supporting individuals and couples exploring dominance, submission, power exchange, and kink with clarity, communication, consent, and psychological integrity.
Sacred & Spiritual Sexuality
For those drawn to the deeper dimensions of eros, where sexuality, meaning, devotion, and consciousness intersect.
Working Together
I meet with clients in private online sessions.
Rather than fixed programs or packages, most people simply book sessions as needed — returning when a new layer of life, relationship, or desire is ready to unfold. Each session is a spacious 90–120 minute video conversation, allowing us the time to slow down, explore what’s present, and work thoughtfully with whatever you bring into the space.
Sessions may include guided conversation, somatic awareness, emotional resolution work, and practical tools for intimacy and communication.
Some clients choose to meet frequently during seasons of change or challenge, and return periodically as new insights, opportunities, and edges arise. You are always welcome to return when you want thoughtful perspective, grounded guidance, or a deeper conversation.
“You helped me get my balls back!”
"I used to live in a lot of fear and self-consciousness: muted, stunted. I was not the man I wanted to be.
Now I can live from my power and my heart fully.... no more shame."
— Shawn
“I have more intimacy with myself than I ever could have imagined.”
Working with Kristin, I discovered I don't have to have a partner to be completely fulfilled. I now understand clearly what makes my body feel good! I can be responsible for listening, loving, and taking care of myself.
— Sam
“Food, rent, and working with Kristin...these are NO BRAINERS.”
There were deep rooted issues in our 20 year-marriage. I was apprehensive about getting help with such a personal issue, but Kristin honored our values without ever making us feel wrong about what we believe in or what we desired: an impressive balance.
— Roberto
I was raised in a high-control religious environment where sexuality was tightly restricted. My own journey out of that world became a long process of healing, exploration, and reclamation.
Today I help others navigate the terrain between sexual shame and embodied freedom, and between inherited beliefs and personal truth.
I understand that hiring a coach in the area of dating, relationships, and sexuality is tender and vulnerable stretch for many, and requires deep trust. I do this work because I believe that the areas of our greatest wounding are also the opportunities for our deepest healing, AND the areas we are most equipped and qualified to help others.
Client Love
"Stop what you're doing right now and book Kristin! I can't think of a more valuable investment.
I didn't know there was so much to learn about sex until I worked with her. She taught me how to communicate what I want in the bedroom and why that's important (aka: guys can't read your mind!).
My partner immediately complimented my communication skills in the bedroom: he suddenly knew exactly how to please me, because I felt clear and empowered in asking. I didn't realize how much more elevated my experience could be! "
- Alicia
FAQs
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Do you offer virtual coaching worldwide?
YES! I have clients all over the globe via video coaching for 8 years. Please send me a message (kristin@wilderintimacy.com) to inquire about special accommodations for your time zone.
Are your services covered under medical insurance or FSA/HSA?
No. Coaching services are direct-pay professional services and are not billed through insurance and not eligible for FSA or HSA reimbursement.
Do you offer professional education or mentorship for licensed providers and practitioners?
Yes! I offer professional education, consultation, and mentorship for licensed and credentialed professionals such as therapists, psychologists, coaches, medical and allied health providers, and pelvic floor specialists.
These sessions are educational and consultative in nature and focus on perspective expansion, somatic and relational frameworks, erotic literacy, and practitioner self-development.
They are not therapy or clinical supervision. Many professionals are able to treat this work as a business or professional development expense; please check with your licensing board and tax advisor for eligibility.
Do you offer hands-on touch?
No.
I do not participate in any erotic or sexual way with clients and do not offer hands-on touch. All client sessions are fully clothed, and I do not watch my clients engaging sexually with partners or in self pleasure. If you are looking for sexological bodywork, somatic stress release, scar tissue remediation, or a professional Dominatrix, I can refer you to professionals who include these services in their scope of work.
Do you use licensed or proprietary systems in your work?
My work does not use licensed or proprietary materials, and while I have been certified and licensed in certain bodies of work in the past, I do not currently endorse or represent any intimacy coaching company or branded system.
Wilder Intimacy is rooted in embodied intimacy, nervous-system-aware practice, relational skills, and the lived integration of sexuality and spirituality. While my professional background includes extensive training in multiple somatic and intimacy-based modalities and lineages, all Wilder Intimacy programs and content are original and independently developed.
This work focuses on integration rather than typology. Instead of categorizing desire or assigning identities, Wilder Intimacy emphasizes:
- Somatic awareness and nervous system regulation
- Relational choice, consent, and attunement
- Spiritual and erotic integration rather than performance
- Capacity, pacing, and embodied truth across different seasons of life.
Can I work with you on other topics?
Yes, absolutely. The modalities and tools I use in coaching apply to all areas of life, and I enjoy switching gears when it's the right fit!
Do you work with individuals who are partnered but need to do the work solo?
Yes! I work with individuals, partnered people, and singles. When in partnership, both parties are not required to participate in coaching in order to make significant changes in a relationship; I do support people who are partnered who wish or need to do the work individually.
Can I do this work if I am single, celibate, or have never had a partner?
Absolutely! It is wonderful to discover who we are as erotic beings while single. You can do this work while being completely celibate or even if you have never had a sexual partner.
Does your expertise include Kink & BDSM, Ethical Non-Monogamy, & LGBTQIA+ coaching?
Yes, yes, yes and yes!! I support people in all relationship configurations and all orientations and genders, from vfully celibate and waiting for marriage virgins to long-term monogamous couples and have coaching expertise in ENM and open relating: from 'monogamish' to polyamory and relationship anarchy, I've got you covered!
I am an ally of the LGBTQIA+ community, and certified in Sexual Orientation, Identity, Gender & Expression through Embody Emerge.
I am also a proud member of the Kink & BDSM communities, with both lifestyle and professional expertise, and completing a 700-hour training in psychological Domination and am the founder of Devotional Kink.
I am an ally of the LGBTQIA+ community, and certified in Sexual Orientation, Identity, Gender & Expression through Embody Emerge.
I am also a proud member of the Kink & BDSM communities, with both lifestyle and professional expertise, and completing a 700-hour training in psychological Domination and am the founder of Devotional Kink.
I'm religious/spiritual/formerly religious. Will you coach me with respect to my beliefs?
Yes, absolutely. I tailor my coaching to honor your traditions and ethics. My clients have included Orthodox and Modern Jews, Latter-Day Saints, Christians, Catholics and Muslims, as well as ex-vangelicals, people healing from purity culture, in the midst of spiritual deconstruction, Shamans, Shamanistas and Pagans, as well as people with no spiritual or religious practices or background.
Do you offer group coaching sessions?
Yes! I offer group coaching sessions that allow for dynamic interaction and learning among participants. These sessions are designed to provide support, wisdom, and community, benefiting from the shared experiences of the group.
Words of appreciation...
"Next level breakthrough. This was crazy amazing. I had no idea of my own capabilities. Allowing pleasure and new ways of thinking and being is awesome!
After working with Kristin, something as simple as holding hands was different. We are more aware of and able to meet each other's specific needs. It got us thinking and talking to each other differently about our relationship, our conversations and the way that we can turn each other on. This is life-changing work!
- Toby & Gwen
"I enjoy dirty talk a LOT more than I expected!
Now that we know the words and phrases that work for us, I feel like the real me rather than trying to imitate a porn star.
Verbal foreplay and sexy talk is now really HOT and FUN instead of awkward & embarrassing."
- Sara
"What HAVEN'T you taught me (lol). The biggest thing... I'm wildly aware now that I possess a sexual energy and power that I had no idea I had a connection to (LITERALLY NO IDEA).
And now I'm aware of it in every interaction. I'm also now aware that I am way more into taboo and playful kink than I imagined... like, that was super repressed but SUPER HOT. I could sing your praises all day long."
- Kristy
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