Erotic Blueprints

In relationships, communication extends far beyond the words we speak, particularly when it comes to expressing desire. While verbal consent is crucial, it's equally important to tune into the non-verbal cues that convey unspoken feelings and intentions. Understanding this subtle language of desire involves developing a deeper awareness of both your own and your partner's body language, energy, and presence, leading to a more profound connection and intimacy.

In the heart of our marriage lies an intimate connection that transcends strategies or styles, embodying a lived experience of Wilder Intimacy. This essence is not a formula but a daily practice that navigates joy and sorrow, embracing the raw and sacred beauty of authentic connection. It reflects a journey through life's varied terrains, creating a partnership that resists taming and embraces the full spectrum of human experience.

Wilder Intimacy is rooted in presence, much like stepping into a forest with heightened senses, embracing vulnerability and truth. It is a form of love where nothing essential is hidden, creating a relationship as dynamic as a binary star system—two individuals whole unto themselves yet connected by an undeniable gravitational pull. The marriage evolves not out of passivity but through intentional devotion, marked by a shared language that is constantly shaped by life’s experiences and personal growth.

This path is more than a romantic ideal; it is a commitment to show up for one another with unwavering trust and openness, embracing all facets of being. Whether through tranquil moments or passionate encounters, the marriage is not about perfection but about devotion, resilience, and the courage to engage in challenging conversations. Ultimately, Wilder Intimacy is a celebration of the sacred within the everyday, a testament to a love that is fierce, playful, and deeply real.

This is a story from our own relationship. The journey into deeper intimacy and connection is beautifully illuminated by the Erotic Blueprints, a tool that has transformed our erotic life from good to great. Our marriage blossomed from a foundation of shared values and intellectual curiosity, having met through a dating app, with clear intentions of seeking a committed partnership. Despite Kristin's vibrant erotic nature and professional focus as a sex coach, she respected my self-imposed celibacy, fostering a bond rooted in emotional resonance before physical intimacy. When we finally chose to merge physically, it felt like a sacred consummation, igniting a cosmic exploration of eroticism guided by the Erotic Blueprints. This ongoing journey is characterized by dynamic exploration and conscious practice, utilizing the Blueprints not just for erotic enhancement but as a shared language that deepens our connection in daily life. We navigate our distinct erotic energies with tools like Blueprint Stacking, allowing us to harmoniously meet each other's needs and desires. This profound attunement, coupled with active consent practices such as the Wheel of Consent, has not only transformed our intimate moments but also enriched our everyday interactions, fostering a richer, more authentic way of relating.

The blog post discusses the rise of "sobergasms," a concept gaining popularity in society where individuals experience sexual pleasure without the influence of alcohol or substances. This trend aligns with the broader sober-curious movement, prompting people to question the necessity of alcohol for social confidence, connection, and pleasure. Sobergasms emphasize a shift towards experiencing intimacy with heightened clarity and intention, offering deeper emotional connections and more fulfilling orgasms.

Major media outlets and social media influencers are contributing to the conversation by highlighting the emotional and sensory benefits of sober sex. Studies show that while alcohol may lower inhibitions, it can also dull physical sensations and lead to regretful experiences. Consequently, more individuals are choosing sober intimacy for enhanced physical sensations, better communication, and a greater sense of ethical and safe sexual practices.

Moreover, sobergasms encourage enhanced body awareness and mindfulness, which many therapists and intimacy coaches highlight as beneficial for both solo and partnered experiences. The absence of alcohol allows individuals to fully engage with their bodies and partners, leading to more immersive and satisfying sexual experiences. Ultimately, this movement towards sober pleasure is reshaping how people think about relationships and intimacy by prioritizing genuine connection and conscious, authentic pleasure.

'Cult to Kink' - The unlikely story of a former good girl turned kinky sex coach! Listen to this 'Exodus healing story' and listen in as three ex-evangelicals talk about high-control religion, purity culture, shame, childhood sexual abuse; and discover personal sovereignty, divine remembrance, autonomy and healing through pleasure and exploring the Kinky Energetic Erotic Blueprint stack. Kristin shares her "Cult to Kink" story of leaving the 2x2 religious cult (under investigation by the FBI) and a brief introduction to Devotional Kink: the Art of Spiritual D/s™. This is what happens when we reach the end of ourselves, and give ourselves radical permission to be 'Naked and Unashamed' - the real us emerges, free and clear.