The blog post explores how non-monogamous relationships can foster feelings of compersion, a positive emotional response characterized by joy at a partner’s fulfillment with others, as opposed to the traditionally perceived jealousy. Compersion is positioned as the emotional opposite of jealousy, fostering trust and satisfaction instead of insecurity and anxiety. The discussion highlights the psychological theories that support compersion and its benefits to emotional well-being, enhanced communication, and overall relationship satisfaction, emphasizing that feelings of compersion and jealousy can coexist and be managed intentionally.
In contrasting compersion with jealousy, the article delves into the challenges and strategies necessary for cultivating a compersion mindset. While jealousy, often linked to attachment anxiety and insecurity, can undermine emotional well-being by triggering stress and conflict, compersion allows individuals to view their partner’s happiness as an opportunity for emotional and personal growth. The practice of compersion is linked to increased relationship satisfaction, reduced anxiety and insecurity, and improved emotional resilience through fostering open communication and emotional transparency.
The blog post underscores that compersion can promote personal growth by encouraging emotional resilience, enhanced self-worth, and empathy. Intentional strategies such as self-reflection, structured communication tools like the Wheel of Consent, and professional relationship coaching are recommended to overcome challenges such as social conditioning and attachment insecurities. These strategies aid individuals in embracing compersion, leading to more harmonious and fulfilling relationships within non-monogamous dynamics and beyond.
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'Cult to Kink' - The unlikely story of a former good girl turned kinky sex coach! Listen to this 'Exodus healing story' and listen in as three ex-evangelicals talk about high-control religion, purity culture, shame, childhood sexual abuse; and discover personal sovereignty, divine remembrance, autonomy and healing through pleasure and exploring the Kinky Energetic Erotic Blueprint stack. Kristin shares her "Cult to Kink" story of leaving the 2x2 religious cult (under investigation by the FBI) and a brief introduction to Devotional Kink: the Art of Spiritual D/s™. This is what happens when we reach the end of ourselves, and give ourselves radical permission to be 'Naked and Unashamed' - the real us emerges, free and clear.Resources & Links:
- Kristin’s website & podcasts (listen to Juliette Karaman’s interview on The Scrumptious Woman ‘From Good Girl to Pleasure Maven’ for more about the altar building & Marriage 2.0)
- Holy Unapologetic Podcast
- Podcast host & Erotic Blueprints Coach Ayce Krypton
- Hulu documentary link: Secrets of the 2x2 Church
- Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sexy Life on Your Own Terms, Matthias Roberts
- Shameless: A Sexual Reformation/A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good (About Sex) by Nadia Bolz Weber
- Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free by Linda Kay Kline
- New Topping/Bottoming Books by Dossie Eatons
- Building the Team: Executive Power Exchange by Raven Kaldera & Joshua Tenpenny
- Divine Kink: A Consideration of the Evidence for BDSM as Spiritual Ritual by Sam Greenberg, California Institute of Integral Studies
- Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM & Beyond by Lee Harrington
- Urban Tantra, Sacred Sexuality for the 21st Century by Barbara Carellis
- The Deep Psychology of BDSM & Kink by Douglas Thomas
- Why Are People Into That? A Cultural Investigation of Kink by Tina Horn
- When Someone You Love is Kinky by Dossie Eaton
- The Heart of Dominance by Anton Fulman
- The Enzo: A Philosophy of Submission by Orpheus Black
- The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
- Open Deeply by Kate Loree
- Open Monogamy by Tammy Nelson
- Wired for Pleasure (podcast with Tony Robbins coach & Jaiya & Ian)
